There's been something i've wanted to blog about alot lately since it's been on my mind. The thing i've been wondering is why, is it that certian people think they have to be in a relationship to be happy. I have several friends that totally stress out when they are single, and then they settle for less then they are worth and then a few months later they are heartbroken, and to get over the heartbreak they suddenly "HAVE" to find someone to replace the last someone. To me that's kind of like saying you dont trust God enough, to bring the someone your meant to be with in your life. I mean I understand, no one wants to be alone but sometimes your just pushing it. If you have to be someone else, to get someone to like you then they dont truly like you.....and it wont last. If you have to rush things, then you dont really get to know someone and how can you know if it's suppose to be? I mean i'm not against dating, but I think it's rather stupid to date for any other reason then it ending in Marriage. Otherwise it's just pointless heartache. Atleast that's how I look at it. I actually perfer the term- Courtship over dating. I have a very good i've been very good friends with for several years now. I've watched her go though boyfriends so many times over and over. I've watched how depressed she gets when they break up, and I've watched how depressed she is when she's not with someone. She will claim she is happy single and then a couple days later she say's she likes someone else, and I have to wonder, how this is possible. It's as if she cant be happy with herself, she has to have someone to tell her how beautiful she is......Which brings me to another thing. You cant love someone else if you cant love yourself!!!!!! If your not happy when, you dont have a spouse then you are not going to magically become happy just because you have that someone special. Sure it might seem you are happy at first, but there will come a time when you will feel insecure again. You must first LOVE God, and Trust him, and then you must Love yourself.....you cant rely on a guy/or girl, to tell you what your worth!!! Learn to love yourself! Every teenager is going to get hurt by a guy/girl at some point rather or not they are in a relationship. Sometimes, it's going to just be a worthless crush that doesnt even know you like them, and maybe they have a girlfriend/boyfriend and thats going to hurt. I look at it as one way or another your going to get hurt......BUT dont open the doors to pain! I believe if everyone trusts and follows God, they will find the person they are meant to be with. Dont rush life. I'm not saying I dont sometimes feel alone, or like a guy I shouldnt like......But I trust God to guide me to one I am truly meant to spend the rest of my life with.....not just a few painful months or even years. I want a forever kind of love.
God Bless you!
Jenna
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